Showing posts with label greed. Show all posts
Showing posts with label greed. Show all posts

Friday, April 16, 2010

Free Will - Not Til We Learn To Think For Ourselves and About Our Self


When I was visiting India I spent a lot of time reading the excellent english-language newspapers. The Times of India, I discovered, ran a regular feature called "The Speaking Tree" which shares articles that help remind readers of the bigger questions in life. It was very... eastern, it seemed, and was a great way to start your day over a hot, sweet cup of chai tea.

Now I can read "The Speaking Tree" online and it has not yet disappointed in its delivery of sage and wise advice for good living. The following is one of the latest installments in this worthy series.


Ask Yourself How Free You Are

Most of us would say that we do have free will. We can do anything we wish. If we want to wear a red shirt instead of a blue one, we can. If we want to eat a sandwich instead of a pizza we can. If we want to take off from work and sit at home today, we can. If we want to marry the girl or boy we love, we can. If we have enough money, we can buy any house, car, or gadget. Likewise, we can travel wherever we want to. Obviously, it looks as if free will exists.

According to Ramesh Balsekar, all the choices that we make are from the act of exercising the will. How free is free will? Whatever we call free will or choice is finally determined by a mix of two things, nature and nurture, or by our heritage and conditioning. We can’t choose our parents, and hence we have no choice over the genetic material they gift to us. Also, from birth, we are exposed to conditioning and belief systems. These are required for survival.

In the process of growing up, we are conditioned and led to believe a great many things by family, friends and strangers, the media, commercials, books and what-have-you. As an adult, we are thus a mixture of our genetics and all these conditioning. This is our programming, our code. And all our decisions, our choices, our thoughts and acts, originate from this programmed mind. A part of this programming is done by nature and the environment does the rest of it. Really, there is nothing sacred or pure about our decisions.

Is this a good thing or a bad thing? By itself, this is difficult to say. But at least we should realise that what we normally consider freedom or free will, is itself a slave of our programming. If you were to ask a vegetarian "Why don't you like meat?” he would most often answer: "Because it is bad to eat meat". "And how have you come to this decision that eating meat is bad"? "I have always been told that eating meat is bad and should be avoided.” As one can see, the decision not to eat meat may seem an act of freedom or free will, but the conditioning of childhood are holding us in slavery, unknown to us.

If two like-minded friends were asked: "What would you do if you were walking together, and saw one man killing another?" One of them might reply: "I will immediately go to the victim's rescue, even if it means risking danger to myself", while the other might say, "I will run away, find the nearest telephone booth, and call the police, without identifying myself". The two friends are close; they often think alike but on this occasion they react differently.

This could be because of their basic natures that have been shaped by their respective circumstances and upbringing. What each of them would do seems to be a free act, but is actually already pre-decided. Real freedom would be if the first fellow would run away or if the second fellow would wait and fight. But usually, our pre-programmed brain acts only in the way it is programmed to.

True freedom and free will come only if we are able to go beyond our programming. To override our basic genetic make up is near impossible. But it is indeed possible to go beyond our conditioning, beliefs, indoctrinations and ideas. Once we can un-condition ourselves, we will be able to respond freely. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life/spirituality/speaking-tree/Ask-yourself-just-how-free-you-are/articleshow/5498482.cms

Friday, June 5, 2009

Why Can't We Truly Love?

14 years old. Allegedly shot 'nice people'. Stephen Harper and reform party people like him would have these kids punished to the full extent of the law. And H. would have those laws get tougher. Meaner.

Today an arsonist in California is sentenced to death. He started fires in southern California. People died. He will die. That's the law.

Would Canada kill these kids if they could? Would it stop them? Will it bring back the dead people?

What did you do when you were 14 that broke the law? Now?

I heard a group home councillor cry as he told a story about a 12 year old boy in the group home. No family, no friends. Just a group home. Just fear.
The councillor had to sit in on the meeting where the mom told her son in person "I just don't love you anymore. I have a new family." You are on your own.

When I was 12 I started my period. Learned to shave my legs. Got grounded for smoking. I never doubted my parent's love. Or thought I could not go home.

This boy cried. And lost his faith in humans. All the councillor could offer was a longer stay at the home and a lock on the door. A couple nights later a different unhappy kid pulled a knife on the councillor. Maybe on the inside isn't safe either.

Maybe these boys have been failed 100%. What H. offers, on behalf of every single Canadian, is further judgment, blame, and evidence that life, especially theirs, is unvaluable. They got nothing, now they have less.

The hard things in life are not hard because they are easy. They are hard cuz they are hard.
Think about it.
Stealing, murder, suicide, abortion, greed, none are easy on our souls, our psyche.

Surely blaming children like they are adults, without any of the 'training' adults get to be good people, will surely make them meaner.

The blame is on every one of us for these deaths. And the adults these kids become is also on us. Every one of us. We take more than we need. We take more than we can afford. We steal from others if it serves our purposes. We sleep not restfully and with one eye open.

I weep for these kids. And the 12 year old whose mom doesn't love him anymore. And those that couldn't love. Why can't we love? Why do we hate ourselves so much?

"We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty. "
Mother Teresa